I have seen a lot of people who seem like they have poor epistemics and think too highly of their grand theories and frameworks butthurt, often angry about Sonnet 4.5 not buying their stuff.

Yes. It’s overly paranoid and compulsively skeptical. But not being able to surmount this friction (and indeed make it generative) through patient communication and empathy seems like a red flag to me. If you’re in this situation I would guess you also don’t have success with making other humans see your way.